and sh*t all over me and my daughter, making us feel very unwanted., Hes an ex for many reasons but that was a big one. NTA. A few months ago we said to our family and friends that only a few select people will be making speeches, and giving them a fairly strict time limit. .s5ap8yh1b4ZfwxvHizW3f{color:var(--newCommunityTheme-metaText);padding-top:5px}.s5ap8yh1b4ZfwxvHizW3f._19JhaP1slDQqu2XgT3vVS0{color:#ea0027} ._2FKpII1jz0h6xCAw1kQAvS{background-color:#fff;box-shadow:0 0 0 1px rgba(0,0,0,.1),0 2px 3px 0 rgba(0,0,0,.2);transition:left .15s linear;border-radius:57%;width:57%}._2FKpII1jz0h6xCAw1kQAvS:after{content:"";padding-top:100%;display:block}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2{-ms-flex-align:center;align-items:center;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;-ms-flex-pack:start;justify-content:flex-start;background-color:var(--newCommunityTheme-navIconFaded10);border:2px solid transparent;border-radius:100px;cursor:pointer;position:relative;width:35px;transition:border-color .15s linear,background-color .15s linear}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._3kUvbpMbR21zJBboDdBH7D{background-color:var(--newRedditTheme-navIconFaded10)}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._3kUvbpMbR21zJBboDdBH7D._1L5kUnhRYhUJ4TkMbOTKkI{background-color:var(--newRedditTheme-active)}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._3kUvbpMbR21zJBboDdBH7D._1L5kUnhRYhUJ4TkMbOTKkI._3clF3xRMqSWmoBQpXv8U5z{background-color:var(--newRedditTheme-buttonAlpha10)}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._1asGWL2_XadHoBuUlNArOq{border-width:2.25px;height:24px;width:37.5px}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._1asGWL2_XadHoBuUlNArOq ._2FKpII1jz0h6xCAw1kQAvS{height:19.5px;width:19.5px}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._1hku5xiXsbqzLmszstPyR3{border-width:3px;height:32px;width:50px}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._1hku5xiXsbqzLmszstPyR3 ._2FKpII1jz0h6xCAw1kQAvS{height:26px;width:26px}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._10hZCcuqkss2sf5UbBMCSD{border-width:3.75px;height:40px;width:62.5px}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._10hZCcuqkss2sf5UbBMCSD ._2FKpII1jz0h6xCAw1kQAvS{height:32.5px;width:32.5px}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._1fCdbQCDv6tiX242k80-LO{border-width:4.5px;height:48px;width:75px}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._1fCdbQCDv6tiX242k80-LO ._2FKpII1jz0h6xCAw1kQAvS{height:39px;width:39px}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._2Jp5Pv4tgpAsTcnUzTsXgO{border-width:5.25px;height:56px;width:87.5px}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._2Jp5Pv4tgpAsTcnUzTsXgO ._2FKpII1jz0h6xCAw1kQAvS{height:45.5px;width:45.5px}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._1L5kUnhRYhUJ4TkMbOTKkI{-ms-flex-pack:end;justify-content:flex-end;background-color:var(--newCommunityTheme-active)}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._3clF3xRMqSWmoBQpXv8U5z{cursor:default}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._3clF3xRMqSWmoBQpXv8U5z ._2FKpII1jz0h6xCAw1kQAvS{box-shadow:none}._2e2g485kpErHhJQUiyvvC2._1L5kUnhRYhUJ4TkMbOTKkI._3clF3xRMqSWmoBQpXv8U5z{background-color:var(--newCommunityTheme-buttonAlpha10)} ._3bX7W3J0lU78fp7cayvNxx{max-width:208px;text-align:center} My daughter and her fiance got engaged last year and my wife and I promised to pay for all the wedding expenses which were rather costly. He is an avid roleplayer and storyteller occasionally masquerading as a rational human. Skip to GTV: 10:00. Finally it's AITA for not going to my best friend's sister's wedding? The father revealed that their family had an agreement that the parents would give their children each $10K to be spent on the wedding or a down payment on their first home. If the planning would have ended with me having more guests than she would've had, then I would've willingly covered entirely the cost of the extra guests coming from my side. This sounds like it is months in advance so people like the dj and photographer have plenty of time to find a new gig. do not pay for anything for your father's wedding!!!! You're not the asshole. ._1sDtEhccxFpHDn2RUhxmSq{font-family:Noto Sans,Arial,sans-serif;font-size:14px;font-weight:400;line-height:18px;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;-ms-flex-flow:row nowrap;flex-flow:row nowrap}._1d4NeAxWOiy0JPz7aXRI64{color:var(--newCommunityTheme-metaText)}.icon._3tMM22A0evCEmrIk-8z4zO{margin:-2px 8px 0 0} (Closed), Hey Pandas, Share A Unique Way You Display Your Books (Closed), Here Are My 31 Heartfelt Illustrations To Brighten Up Your Day (New Pics). NTA. When someone moves across the country, they accept the reality that they'll miss milestones for all sorts of reasons ranging from costs to time. She's very disappointed and things have been icy because they would have to put off getting a house together if they were to pay for the wedding and they still wouldn't be able to afford the wedding that they want. While I disagree with this imo and would never do it. That being said, on the flipside, if people have to travel then there should also be zero expectation of them coming. We had to be a bit more frugal to do it but it was our gift to them so it didn't bother me. It is also normal for guests to pay their travel and accommodation costs! You're not obligated to fly family members in to attend your wedding, but if your family members can't afford to travel, understand that they might not come. Skip to first sitch: 20:03. A lot of users online agreed with the man, stating that she isnt entitled to this money, its seen more as the parents generous offer. I highlighted that I'd prefer we'd invite only family and friends that we're actively communicating and going out with, that I'd rather spend that precious time with people I care most for, rather than being split around tables having to entertain people I rarely even talk to. My father is getting remarried, hes almost 58 years old. It's her guest list and I get that. I've let her know that we will split the finances percent wise for up to 35 invites from each other's side, and that she'd have to cover entirely the extra guests that'd be coming from her side (any guest above 35). If they do rebook, they are required to return the deposit. NO!. They asked another family member to help plan the shower. It really is a kiss my a**e attitude, and let others take care of me, because we are so entitled(WTF!) Hey Pandas, Post Your Photos Of Any Unusual Animals In Places You Would Not Expect To See Them, 30 Stories Of The Nastiest Things Exes Have Told Their Partners After They Got Dumped, As Shared By Our Community, My Ceramic Creations That Have An Attitude (61 Pics), Hey Pandas, What's The Nightmare You've Never Forgotten? /*# sourceMappingURL=https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/chunkCSS/TopicLinksContainer.3b33fc17a17cec1345d4_.css.map*/ before contacting the mod team. Or vice versa. But they are not assholes if they won't come as a result. Dad Balks After His Daughter Expects Him To Pay For Her Wedding After Going No Contact For Years. He doesnt like that we arent invited but hes not turning down a free vacation either., After she invited him and his boys and made all the plans and purchased tickets she told him shed pay for their accommodations but he had to help pay for everything else., He barely makes enough money to cover his own bills and his part of our shared bills (mortgage & utilities). 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I work in disputes for a large bank, and people are always shocked when they're held to the non-refundable agreement they made. I always say have your wedding wherever you want, but dont expect everyone to travel far to attend. Let's keep in touch and we'll send more your way. NTA. Non refundable deposit, aren't. She is very interested in sustainable fashion and is a perfect companion to go to second-hand shops and antiques for nearly anything: clothes, books or furniture. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. NTA. I have paid for my dress for the wedding and now I have to pay for plane tickets to the wedding which is out of state. Its uncommon to go halfway down the road of planning a certain type of wedding and then going in the opposite direction.. Help keep the sub engaging! Get the latest inspiring stories via our awesome iOS app! You can change your preferences. So a couple may have originally thought they wanted to have a big wedding with lots of guests but then end up going down the route of eloping. This is true You have to demand the deposit back from whom you payed it to. 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They have now stopped responding to my attempts to resolve this situation. My husband (32) and I (26) have been married for nearly 6 months. If yall are engaged, yall are family. Some users also suggested some ways out of how they could still save the paid money, but according to OP, that $5K is already a lost cause. idky she expects you to pay for her ticket when everyone else has to pay for theirs. Weddings are boring, if you want people to enjoy them they should have someone to enjoy it with. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. Who on earth expects the bride and groom to pay for their flights? I would not marry a man who is, in effect, telling his sons that your sons are not family. (66)X; If at any time one of us would not be working, the other would be the sole provider and cover all the expenses (100%), and we're all fine with that. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I am curious on this. Yes. Couples like to put their own personal touches on their weddings and also save money on hiring a wedding planner, shared the CEO of, Get the best of Bored Panda in your inbox. CareyHope/Getty Images. By submitting email you agree to get Bored Panda newsletter. Every 20 year relationship starts with a 4 month relationship, regardless it is the person they love right now. Contest mode is 1.5 hours long on this post. Sounds complicated? Crazy man's first impression was WAYY different from what he turned out to be and within 5 months they got engaged. Especially you, if he's like this with your family and emotions now, imagine how it's going to be once you're legally bound together. She kinda agrees with it being a small wedding, though, she'd like to invite family members with which she hasn't even spoken in years (to quote her: "they're still family overall, it's not nice"). 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Therefore, from my side, I'd be having about 35 guests. There's the spouse, kids, friends, parents. I'm a photo editor. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. If sil cant afford it, shes not ta if she doesnt come. You are free. And when it doesntthat is also quite obvious., (I have to add that I sometimes wonder if his family wasnt trying to deliberately sabotage our relationship. AITA? 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Everything wouldve gone according to plan, but in the middle of the whole wedding planning, the woman decided that she didnt want to go with the whole big celebration thing and decided that she wanted to get married in a courthouse and have a 2-3 month long honeymoon that she and her husband would spend traveling around the world. Me and my fiance carefully chose the rules and in total there was about 30 rules. Aita for wanting my husband of 25 . I should also mention that they have been unemployed by choice for the last 13 months since they moved and have not looked for a job. We're both financially in a good place, but for the past 3 years I've been earning twice what she makes. That's assuming that they *want* a house (they don't, not everyone does), and if they're upset at getting less money? ju. At that time we hadn't discussed the rules yet, we just knew it would be very strict. They've only got themselves to blame. Check your inbox, and click on the link to activate your account. The parents decided to help out their daughter by giving her $10K for her dream wedding that she already spent half of while planning her big day celebration. Assuming that you don't weaponize the fact that she misses the wedding. That mean everything had to be canceled- most of which wasn't refundable. Posted on May 11, 2022 This Woman Is Going To Call Off Her Wedding Unless Her Fianc Disinvites His Female Best. So a couple may have originally thought they wanted to have a big wedding with lots of guests but then end up going down the route of eloping. The specialists revealed that this is not a very common occurrence, adding: The more common scenario is for couples to completely change their minds before the actual planning starts. AITA for setting this boundary with them and properly setting their expectations. (And it goes both ways, if you move across the country you can't really expect people to show up for everything, and you can't be upset when you don't get crowds for your wedding). Others were more concerned about the future. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our, Press J to jump to the feed. Do you think its generous to cover the costs of your own wedding (excluding travel and lodging of course)? In our culture, the wedding is a very small event with close family and a few friends but the wedding reception is a large (200-300 people) come and go or come and stay until the end event with food, music, dancing, etc. Quite simply no one can afford for her to attend. Even though this sounds like a great alternative, the parents were quite upset with their daughter spending their $5K on caterers and wedding-related things that they couldnt get back. They now own 3 homes as they just purchased a second rental property. We respect your privacy. Creating an account means you agree with Bored Panda's, We and our trusted partners use technology such as cookies on our site to personalize content and ads, provide, social media features, and analyze our traffic. Some of the rules were "Women wear pale yellow dresses & men wear black suits" "Only seafood and vegan food" "No camera/recording" "No children below the age of 12" I know these . ago Image credits: Ryan Polei (not the actual image). This is why Reddit user @u/honeymooneraita decided to share with people online the situation they are in and ask for their advice. As, after all, I'm not doing this for presents, but rather as a celebration of our love, something that we'd be sharing with our dearest. We loved her since the first day we met her. I would not marry a man who condoned this behavior from his mother. And his name is Crazy man. I might be the asshole for not considering her feelings on the matter. Therefore, we'd have overall about 90-100 guests, give or take. Besides that, her parents want to also invite their own friends and work colleagues, which we've never met. She has a bachelors degree in Translation and Interpreting and a masters degree in Future Media and Journalism. After it's AITA for not getting along with my sister in law? 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Do this over text and save any and . That may be true if you go to court over it(im not a lawyer, so idk), but if you try to dispute it through your bank, you're gonna be held to the agreement you made, which likely only says that the deposit is non-refundable. My fiance and I are getting married in a few weeks. Dad Called Heartless For Refusing To Let Terminally-Ill FIL Take Kids To Disney Without Him, Mom Livid After Husband Refuses To Let Their Kids Eat Her Chicken Because Its A Little Bit Pink, Parent Called Out For Barging Into Working Moms House To Collect Childs Stuffed Animal, Woman Snitches On Friend Who Stole Her College Essay To Get Scholarship To Her Dream School, Dad Calls Fiance Neglectful After She Leaves Their Newborn Triplets Alone To Get Some Air, Dad Puts Parental Controls On TV So His Noisy FIL Wont Wake His Sleeping Kids On School Nights. They want me to use my savings that I have carefully planned out to pay for my college so that I can graduate without debt to pay for the bridal shower and wedding transportation. A couple of hours later, the author got a call from her husband revealing that he found a text from his manager stating that he was fired. My daughter and I were given a 6 oz. "To preface this, we only got engaged about 10 weeks ago and have plans for November 2021, but if there's still issues at the time we'll postpone." Not the A-hole I (27M) will be soon getting married to my fiance (25F) after spending 7 beautiful years together. Hey Former Cult Member Pandas, What Made You Figure Out You Were In A Cult? cf; pf . Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. She's known you're getting married likely for months now. Or allow/support others doing the same. I have attended numerous wedding, sometimes far away, I always paid for it. 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